分享~~

遗忘是心的缝隙，遗掉了多少珍贵的昨天？
回忆是心的手臂，捡拾起多少珍贵的往事？
记忆是心灵的相机，摄下了多少难忘的镜头？
宽容是心灵的针线，缝合了多少人世的创伤？
贪婪是心灵的蠹虫，吞噬了多少美好的灵魂？
思念是心灵的花园，开满了多少相思的花朵？
猜疑是心灵的利剑，斩断了多少爱情的红线？

忘了从哪儿抄下的这段语录，但觉得很有意义，愿与大家共勉之~~

A New Cigarette Hazard: ‘Third-Hand Smoke’ - By RONI CARYN RABIN

Found an interesting article, most people heard about second-hand smoke, but researchers found the existence of "Third-Hand Smoke" which is more harmful to health and unfortunately very difficult to avoid and prevent from as long as there is smoker around you....

Parents who smoke often open a window or turn on a fan to clear the air for their children, but experts now have identified a related threat to children’s health that isn’t as easy to get rid of: third-hand smoke.

That’s the term being used to describe the invisible yet toxic brew of gases and particles clinging to smokers’ hair and clothing, not to mention cushions and carpeting, that lingers long after second-hand smoke has cleared from a room. The residue includes heavy metals, carcinogens and even radioactive materials that young children can get on their hands and ingest, especially if they’re crawling or playing on the floor.

Doctors from MassGeneral Hospital for Children in Boston coined the term “third-hand smoke” to describe these chemicals in a new study that focused on the risks they pose to infants and children. The study was published in this month’s issue of the journal Pediatrics.

“Everyone knows that second-hand smoke is bad, but they don’t know about this,” said Dr. Jonathan P. Winickoff, the lead author of the study and an assistant professor of pediatrics at Harvard Medical School.

“When their kids are out of the house, they might smoke. Or they smoke in the car. Or they strap the kid in the car seat in the back and crack the window and smoke, and they think it’s okay because the second-hand smoke isn’t getting to their kids,” Dr. Winickoff continued. “We needed a term to describe these tobacco toxins that aren’t visible.”

Third-hand smoke is what one smells when a smoker gets in an elevator after going outside for a cigarette, he said, or in a hotel room where people were smoking. “Your nose isn’t lying,” he said. “The stuff is so toxic that your brain is telling you: ’Get away.’”

The study reported on attitudes toward smoking in 1,500 households across the United States. It found that the vast majority of both smokers and nonsmokers were aware that second-hand smoke is harmful to children. Some 95 percent of nonsmokers and 84 percent of smokers agreed with the statement that “inhaling smoke from a parent’s cigarette can harm the health of infants and children.”

But far fewer of those surveyed were aware of the risks of third-hand smoke. Since the term is so new, the researchers asked people if they agreed with the statement that “breathing air in a room today where people smoked yesterday can harm the health of infants and children.” Only 65 percent of nonsmokers and 43 percent of smokers agreed with that statement, which researchers interpreted as acknowledgement of the risks of third-hand smoke.

The belief that second-hand smoke harms children’s health was not independently associated with strict smoking bans in homes and cars, the researchers found. On the other hand, the belief that third-hand smoke was harmful greatly increased the likelihood the respondent also would enforce a strict smoking ban at home, Dr. Winickoff said.

“That tells us we’re onto an important new health message here,” he said. “What we heard in focus group after focus group was, ‘I turn on the fan and the smoke disappears.’ It made us realize how many people think about second-hand smoke — they’re telling us they know it’s bad but they’ve figured out a way to do it.”

The data was collected in a national random-digit-dial telephone survey done between September and November 2005. The sample was weighted by race and gender, based on census information.

Dr. Philip Landrigan, a pediatrician who heads the Children’s Environmental Health Center at Mount Sinai School of Medicine in New York, said the phrase third-hand smoke is a brand-new term that has implications for behavior.

“The central message here is that simply closing the kitchen door to take a smoke is not protecting the kids from the effects of that smoke,” he said. “There are carcinogens in this third-hand smoke, and they are a cancer risk for anybody of any age who comes into contact with them.”

Among the substances in third-hand smoke are hydrogen cyanide, used in chemical weapons; butane, which is used in lighter fluid; toluene, found in paint thinners; arsenic; lead; carbon monoxide; and even polonium-210, the highly radioactive carcinogen that was used to murder former Russian spy Alexander V. Litvinenko in 2006. Eleven of the compounds are highly carcinogenic.

~ cited from The New York Times, 2nd January, 2009 ~

感情的世界......

先声明，可别误会了，所谓感情的世界嘛，不管本小姐的事，本小姐目前还在享受单身的生活 :p
而这感情的世界嘛，是因为最近发生在housemate身上让我有了无限感慨，所以，才想大略把我的想法写在这里吧！！

第一个案例，我想大家都应该知道发生在翠汶还有政辉的事吧。他们在某一个礼拜天很“突然”的决定分手，然后接下来政辉却发现自己后悔了，于是决定挽留，要求复合。然而，翠汶始终都没有答应。刚开始，我是真的能谅解为何翠汶始终犹豫不决的，毕竟，在这之前，政辉或许真的伤她伤得太深了吧~~可是，无可否认的，翠汶其实也有做错的地方啦，然而，在那种时候，政辉却看起来是他们分手的主要原因。 后来，又在某一个礼拜天，翠汶告诉我们她拍拖了。我算是愣了一下吧，反正，在那之前的几天，我已经发现蛛丝马迹了。她说，那个男的是第一个让她有感觉想要去了解的人，更重要的是他也是第一个让她觉得他了解她的人，所以，他们在一起了。各位看官，你们觉得呢？？ 站在翠汶是我朋友的立场，我绝对无条件支持她这个决定，只要她觉得快乐还有幸福。站在政辉是我朋友的立场，我却觉得翠汶是不是做错了呢？？毕竟，她曾经给过政辉希望，而现在，却毫无预警的直接毁了他的希望，她给政辉的伤疤似乎比之前他给她的有过之而无不及呢~~是不是这样呢？？我不是很了解，只是在想当女生刚刚分手的时候，是不是会因为在突然之间无法适应那种少了一个人陪伴的感觉，所以只要这个时候有男生追求她的时候，而这个男生条件也不错的话，她是不是就会毫无考虑地陷入另一段感情里呢？？是这样吗？？？ 我之前都觉得这句话只有一半对，因为我始终觉得这应该把他们分手的状况考虑在内，如果他们是和平分手的话，我想这句话就不一定对了吧？？ 可是，反之，如果女的是在突然之间被要求分手，这样的话，这句话应该就会应验了吧？？ 是吧？？

第二个案例，我一直都觉得我的宿舍里，个个都是各具特色的美女，除了我勉勉强强姑且还可以算一个之外。而这次的主角是一个在我其他housemate的男性朋友中的女神。很了不起吧？？ 她的外貌真的算是数一数二的啦，可是她其他方面我有时还真的有点无法苟同。自从她经历了我知道的第二次分手之后，来找她的男生好比车水马龙，始终不曾中断。嗯，或许这证明了她的魅力吧，可是我觉得凡事都应该要有一个limit, 跟男生做朋友是一回事，可是天天跟他一起出去吃饭，看电影，出街，又是另一回事。毕竟我相信男生会这样一定有目的，而你答应了他，似乎就像无声的默许他这么做。这么做似乎很不对吧？？对那个男生也很不公平，尤其你实际上无意与他继续发展下去，真得很不公平！！然后，还有就是她跟她其中一个女性好朋友的男朋友走得很近，作女朋友的当然会有些吃醋，所以身为朋友的自己应该要识相一点，和那位男朋友有一点距离吧？可是，她没有这么做哦！！反而，因为这样，隐瞒那位女性朋友, 自己和他出去，这样也未免太此地无银三百两了吧？？ 真的不懂她是怎么想的。当然啦，我不是当事人，所以可能个中其他不能说出的理由我不知道吧，（虽然我觉得应该没有咯！）可是，看起来，她表现得太过分了！！！

还有很多详细情节和进展，可是我不是很想在这里全部都写出来，只是觉得或许应该让这位朋友经历一些教训，她才会学会去爱别人，体谅别人，为别人着想吧？以为上次那个分手应该会让她醒悟了些，但似乎她并没有！！哎，真的很不懂她.........

初恋 & 老婆

初恋总是宝贵的，令人难忘的。
遗憾的是，十有八九的初恋，都不能成为婚姻。
因为不能成为婚姻，初恋又显得更为宝贵，让人回味无穷。

阿伟是一位成功的外科医生，和太太结婚二十年，儿子已入大学。

在一次大学旧生会，重遇初恋情人Alice。
Alice，当年是众男生的梦中情人，公认的美人儿。
就是现在，仍比实际年龄漂亮年轻。

当年，为了一个误会，再加两人的自尊心特强，就这样分开了。
后来，Alice去了外国，阿伟留在香港。

初恋的夭折，一度令阿伟痛苦不已，几乎垮了，
幸亏得一位护士同事的关心和鼓励，令他终于走出感情低谷，
重拾心情，这位女同事就成了他的太太。

不料二十年后重逢Alice。

那晚，他们谈了很多，解除了误会，
只是，大家都已人到中年！

次日，
Alice打电话邀阿伟去浅水湾酒店烛光晚餐，
阿伟问, [是不是请我太太一起去？]
Alice回答，[我只想请你一个人，我们已失却太多时光，现在是弥补的时候。]

[对不起，除了因公事，晚上我一般不单独外出吃晚饭。]
[你不是怕老婆吧？] Alice 讥讽他。
[我怕老婆！] 他直认不韦。[我好怕不自觉地令她不开心。]

几日后，Alice 又特地让速递公司送来一封信，
信封上写明要他亲启，并且注明： only for you!

阿伟将信原封退回。

[本来，我会让太太也看这封信的，既然你不希望她看，我也不看了。我已习惯与她分享生活中的一切喜怒哀乐。]

Alice 很不忿气。

她见过阿伟的太太，已中年发福，且不擅修饰，像个屋村师奶，
相反，自己比实际年龄要年轻得多，风韵犹存。

当年阿伟追她追得这样热烈，他不可能对她失去feeling的，一定是阿伟的太太凶神恶煞。

她一不做二不休，当下亲身到他诊所去。

[阿伟，你只需讲yes or no。你仍对我有feeling吗？你还爱我吗？你以前是十分爱我的。]

阿伟只笑笑。

[爱一个人与恨一个人同样需要精力和能力。
感情过去了，应该无爱无恨，古人说，一笑泯恩仇。
让已过去的，无法改变的事实影响目前，根本毫无好处。
我已将我的全部爱分给我的家人，
而且，我已过了这种玩浪漫感情的年纪了。]

Alice 仍不死心。

[你真的爱你太太？还是仅出于一种义务和责任？赛过当年对我那份初恋之情？]

[我是医生，我相信一种科学说法，
真正的爱只能维持十个月，正好是由胚胎到婴儿哇哇出世所需的时日。

这或许要从生物进化的角度来解释。

但爱不同爱情，爱，或许只是一种由荷尔蒙分泌而激发出的感情反应，
一如我受伤会流泪，开心会微笑，是一种很生物式的感情反应。

用一个不合适的比喻，
雄性动物在追求异性时，毛会特别亮丽，叫声也特别悦耳
爱，只是一种行为，动物也懂得用舔触等动作表示“爱”，
然而，唯有爱情，才是人类独有的能力。

一个情字，令人类爱的行为，变得成熟，深沉，有一种单一的行为上升为一种情怀。

我很怀念我们的初恋，但我更珍惜我和太太的婚姻， 珍惜我们一起走过的这段路。]

阿伟的思路非常清晰，不愧为一位名医生。

他十分明白，当初，在他感情最低谷，最消沉时，是现在的太太给他温暖，唤起他的信心。

后来，太太省吃俭用，自己带着儿子独守空巢，支持阿伟外出留学深造。
这二十来年，是太太伴他走过来的。

太太全心于这个家上，无心顾及自己的仪容、衣着。
她将每一分一秒，都发在家人身上。
而且，太太属于那种生活低调，安于做男人背后的女人那种类型。

阿伟不想太太为了他而刻意改变自己，做她不喜欢做的事。
因为爱她，他也尊重她，由她选择她自己喜欢的生活方式。

[我们互相看着白发开始萌生，皱纹出现。
因为这后面包含着许多只有我们两人知道的故事，
孩子的出世，我们第一间屋的乔迁，双方父母病故的哀痛，我们升职，她的一次有惊无险的大手术......
点点滴滴都写在她和我的皱纹上，也只有她和我才懂得。

至于你，Alice，我很怀念那段我们花样的年华，
但我不会用我现在幸福充实的家庭生活去交换那段时日的延续，这只有百害而无一利。

如果我们都珍惜我们的初恋，珍惜这次难得的二十年后的重逢，我们就这样互相握手、互道“珍重”吧！]

Alice 听了这番话，默默拥抱了阿伟，转头就走。

人说，苍蝇不叮无缝的蛋。
今天婚外情，一夜情泛滥，但这绝成不了你忽略她、冷淡她的理由。
珍惜你与她一起走过的路，如是你对她的爱，会如醇酒，愈陈旧愈香。

应该是朋友寄给我的mail吧.... 看了之后感触很深。这世上真的会有那么醒目，那么明白自己心情的男人吗？如果真的是这样，我想拿现在的离婚率，婚外情还有一夜情发生的机率都会几乎趋近于零吧！然而，事实告诉我们不是。就想到那天跟我uni的朋友，佩佩讨论到其实女生会那么喜欢追偶像剧，除了看帅哥（很难否认这个事实，呵呵~），我想最大的原因也是因为偶像剧里有很多很多在这真实的世界里很难可以遇上，甚至机会等于零的超好男主角吧！（有时男配角也不赖）毕竟，虽然说人生如戏，戏如人生，然而，残酷的事实也告诉了我们戏始终还是会有虚构，而这虚构，也不是说要翻印在生活里就能翻印的了的。所以，很明显，“纯属虚构，翻印必究”指的是翻版商。（哈哈~有没有冷到一下？）当然，因为我是女的，所以很自然，我是从女生的角度来看待这件事。无可否认，偶像剧里的女主角也很难可以在现实里遇见，可是，男生迷偶像剧的例子还是颇少的吧！所以，想把他们列在考量范围之外！哈哈！男生，不要打我.....

最后，想跟所有在看这篇部落格的男生朋友说，学学这位故事中的男主角，时时警惕自己，在未来的婚姻路上，时时想起你老婆跟你一同共患难，共享福的回忆吧！不要轻易为了一个莫名其妙、突如其来的邂逅而迷乱，而犯错，而破坏了你与她共同建立的家。小心 谨慎

a biRth oF a BabY.........

on wed, when i have cls on lifespan development, becoz we are going to discuss how a baby is formed and after that his or her birth, my lecturer invited a guest speech to have a talk with us, and the guest speecher is actually my m'sian studies's lecturer, who has just gave birth a baby few months ago. she share her experience while having her baby in her stomach and while she was going to give birth her baby.

she told us that the first two months actually had no special things happen, but after came to the 3rd month, she started to vomit and din really have the apetite to eat things. and she told us that mothers must be very careful in these months coz the brain of the baby is developed during these times, after 5 months, things became better, she could eat things liao, and yeah, she said that she can feel the baby is scracthing and kicking her, forgot the reason liao, but she did tell us why.... (red face....) and till 8 months, she said that mother should be extra more careful coz baby can still have chance to die even the baby is already 8 month liao.....

then finally, she felt the constraction liao, this mean that the baby is going to come out liao, but when she was sent to the hospital, the doctor still asked her to wait, becoz they need to wait her canal (forgot the real word liao, but some sort like tat) to open wider, or else the baby couldnt come out..... this waiting time cost 12 hrs more!!! oh my god, she struggling with the painful within these hours leh...... finally finally, the doctor said that she can push the baby out liao, with her all energy left after 12 hrs waiting, the baby finally came out after half an hour....

mmm.... actually, after heard her experience, me quite afraid to give birth liao, but i can feel my lecturer's happiness, especially after saw her son's pic, a cute baby boy, i think my lecturer never regret bah, since she has been gifted by allah (she is a muslim) a baby......

Some thoughts after reading friend's blog

嗯...在看了朋友的部落格之后，突然有些感想...

朋友在部落格中说到，忘记/放下（此后简单说成忘记好了）一个喜欢或暗恋的人其实也没有很难，当然他强调这并不代表你没有想象中喜欢她/他，也不是说你冷血，他认为要忘记一个人只需要催化剂，就好像一种化学物质需要催化剂的作用才能和另一种化学物质产生反应一样，在催化剂的作用下，忘记一个人就变得容易许多，是这样吗？ 存在着很多疑问...也许，无可否认的，时间是最好的催化剂，然而，时间的长短也因人而异，忘记一个人真的这么容易吗? 对不起，不是故意质疑你的话，只是我还是觉得，忘记一个人没有很容易，也没有很难。

难在于，你对这么一个人所付出的感情并不是这么容易就可以收回来，跟覆水难收的道理是一样的，尤其是你的感情已经付出了这么长的时间下更是难上加难；容易，是当你知道这一个人已经很幸福的时候，你已经没有插手的余地的时候，你已经是多余的时候，你已经彻悟的时候，一切，似乎已经变得不再那么重要的时候...... 还是，这一切就是所谓的催化剂了呢？？？？？？

感情，果然就是难以理解，难怪没有一个确切的理论能够讲解“感情”这回事...........

就像讲师说的，人是很难理解的动物，而我，却也选择了这条路，也许，是我真得太好奇了吧.....所以才会选择了这条不归路，但，我现在确定的是，我不曾后悔！！！！！

some thoughts after watching some drama.....

mmm... thought to write it down in chinese, since i'm better with tat. but thinking tat i'm taking expo writing this sem, maybe i should get use writing in eng. or else, my result will be very suck......

talking abt the dramas, first is the japanese one, good luck, acted by 木村拓哉, it talks abt a life of a pilot, quite like this drama cos it taught us many things, especially it taught us tat we should never give up our dreams easily. like in the drama, 木村拓哉 once has a very serious injury on his leg after he attempted to save his senior tat he cannot longer be a pilot according to the doctor. however, becoz the needs of the plot, 木村拓哉 of cos will not give up like tat, he took a surgery which i dun think it really exists in real life, if i dun remember wrong, the surgery involve breaking his bone of the leg and link(or connected or some other words?) them together again including his nerves, quite diff isnt it? but still, in the drama, the surgery succeed and after doing some physical theraphy, he get well again n finally have the chance to pursue his dream again. so, i realised tat there will always be many obstacles in pursuing my dreams still i need to be strong to fight over them. of cos need to more practical la, unlike the amazing surgery in the drama. ^^

another one, also is japanese, 白色巨塔, acted by 唐泽寿明 and 江口洋介. this drama is actually quite good in talking abt the real life in the society, abt how ppl fight to become a famous and rich and powerful person, of cos in an unappropriate way, like bribing others etc. anything they also can do. still, since there is a bad guy in the drama, there will always be a good guy, in this drama, this good guy is a person tat who just concern abt how to treat cancer and everything he does is always for the patients' benefit. of, forgot to say liao, this drama is talking abt doctors' life in japan. becoz i realised tat there's somehow many differences compare to our country's. however, after watching the whole drama, i dun really think tat the bad guy is very bad at all, wat his fault is just tat he too concerns abt the 名利, he actually also concerns abt his patients, and of coz he like the good guy, always try hard to cure cancer's patients. mmm.... maybe this is the real life. everyone has his or her own choices to play wat kind of character in life, but tat doesnt mean he or she are like tat, he or she just different from most of us who choose to play the character tat most accepted by the society...... real life is terrible rite? dun really noe who is good or who is bad..... sigh............................... : (
dun really like the thought abt it.... aiz.......... but still like this drama cos it woke me up from my dreams tat everything will be wonderful and beautiful in life... stupid ho me to think like tat........

last one, is taiwanese, 恶魔在身边, acted by 贺军翔 and 杨丞琳. mmm... quite like this drama also, cos it somehow unlike the other love dramas just talking abt love but it also tell us abt other things.... quite like the friendship between the characters, seems like they all understand and trust each other, mmm... quite rare in reality, isnt it?? there will always be misunderstanding in real life, more difficult to have a strong bond to each other.... also envy the kinship in the drama, they are so close tat they can tell secret to each other, this will nv happen to me, dun really know why, but i definitely will keep my secrets forever in my heart.... maybe to protect myself ba....... as for the love between two main characters, i respect them cos both of them have tried hard to protect their love and not to harm the ppl around them at least not very seriously.......

to end all, still like japanese drama who always inspire me to hv new thought abt life. still, some taiwanese 偶像剧 also quite nice as long as they din talk abt love all the time and trying to prolong the plots, tat will be nice for me.

finally, this will be the end of my post. eng still has to improve but there are some words i just cant translate it into eng, so forgive me to mix it with some chinese words.

无题.......

在朋友的部落格看到很不错的文字，就抄下来了：

走错也是一种美丽的过程

人生当中 真的有很多分歧点
需要自己去抉择 一旦作了决定
就永远也无法知道当初放弃的那条路接下来会是怎样的
以前的我们 总是会犹豫 遗憾
于是 越来越多的不完美 越来越多的情绪压抑 越来越不快乐
其实......
很多事情 错过了就没有了 错过了就是会变的
既然自己无法阻止这一切的变化 那又何必执著于其中呢？
一直相信 上帝会有这样的安排 就有祂自己的一套道理
所以每个人走的每一步路 都有它的意义存在
只是 时候未到 自己无法体验出箇中道理罢了